I started to read up on abandonment issues after growing frustrated. I'm on a fast track learning curve on how hurting people hurt people. Not that I should play the naive card... It's not as if I didn't do plenty of hurting others last time!
It is like going through an emotional roller coaster just to love and care for someone who has been so viciously hurt in this way. One article named 3 things that someone who cares for a person facing abandonment issues will need; I remember two - love and patience. The latter especially I am fast running out of!
Probably time for me to just stretch further and further until I grow into enough love, care and patience to take it.