I was really furious, the other evening. C was sharing about a girl who had disclosed to C that she had been sexually abused as a child. The girl who disclosed the abuse had also said that she had 'liked' the sexual touch. C told us how shocked C had been to hear this, in a funny way that made some of the listeners laugh.
I didn't laugh. I thought of the brave girl who had made such a courageous choice to disclose.
And I wished that I could tell C a few things...
I wish I could have told C...
... That some sexual abuse victims do get aroused by the sexual touch, and that is normal. It's just the way the body is made.
... That the sexual abuse survivor often feels shame and guilt because they think they must have wanted and instigated the abuse, because they 'liked' it.
... That children's bodies are capable of and do respond to such touch, and it is something some abusers use to hold against them, to keep them silent.
... That by laughing and making fun of it and getting others to laugh with you, you are only compounding the shame and silence other survivors feel.
But... Then I wonder, maybe all people think the same? I don't know...
Saturday, July 5, 2014
When I saw this, I really felt uncomfortable with it. To me, it just gave such an impression that they are protesting LGBT relationships in a way that will make LGBTs feel that they are the ones being protested against.
I posted it on FB. And I was quite surprised to see the post picked up and shared by another guy who normally has strong views but who agreed with how I felt.
Then I saw a guy whom I knew reply to him in the comments. This guy and his good friend are NOT on my friends lists. I dislike very much some of their ways of looking at things... Distinctly unloving and very self-righteous. I remember asking his good friend once if he had led anyone to Christ before and he said no, he had shared with his friends but THEIR hearts were cold. I couldn't help but think to myself that I would not like to believe in the kind of God that he represents! A cold and merciless god!
Anyway, this guy had a strong debate with the guy who shared my post. He disagreed strongly.
At the same time, I read another article published by the same magazine, about a lady who is a Christian. She is no longer in an LGBT relationship. But she first got to know Christ because she was drawn by the love and acceptance that other Christians showed her. Some of the Christians said, "She is embarassing! She is a bad example!" but their leader told them to treat her with love. Today, she is a beautiful testimony of Christ love and salvation.
Isn't that the crux of the whole matter?